Who has influenced your life the most?
At this point in my life I would say Mark has influenced me the most. We push each other to do new things and where I am now in my life is directly correlated with decisions we’ve made together. Sharing your life with someone is probably the biggest decision you’ll ever make.
If you could communicate to every person in your generation, what would you say to them?
Other people’s opinions of you don’t invalidate who you are. Just do you, don’t worry what anyone else has to say about it.
What is currently your biggest struggle? and What is something you most look forward to with the remainder of this summer season?
Biggest struggle: it would be letting go of the anger I feel about my miscarriage in May. I still get very upset about it and it seems like there is a never ending slew of pregnancy announcements in my world and I’m really struggling on feeling happy for the person and not extreme jealousy. It’s hard to like yourself when something great happens for a friend and all you feel is anger and hurt.
Most looking forward to this summer: I don’t have any one big thing to look forward to, mostly I just want lots of weekends with friends, grilling out, and enjoying the warmth and sunshine. I’m like a lizard and I love the oppressive heat that comes with summer in the Midwest.
how did you and mark meet? when and how did he propose? what's your favorite and least favorite thing about callie?
Mark and I met in college.
Our freshmen year.
In BIO 107.
We were randomly assigned as lab partners.
He was quiet, shy, with a deadly sarcastic sense of humor. We made fun of each other every day and eventually our study sessions turned into make out sessions. We are a Rainbow Rowell love story minus the adorable personalities, we’re kind of assholes.
Mark proposed in the St. Louis botanical gardens. On Wednesdays the gardens hold free concerts so we brought a picnic. Mark was a real dick about it because he wouldn’t eat any of my carefully packed picnic, ignored the beer I snuck in, and kept making me walk around the park when I wanted to sit. He got increasingly irritated when he couldn’t find a secluded spot (he does not like attention) and the first second we found a partially private space he got on one knee and proposed. His voice wavered with nerves, I cried, it was perfect. In retrospect I felt really bad at how nervous he was and how I was no help.
Callie - I love how devoted she is to us, we’re her favorite people in the world, she doesn’t like anyone as much as us. I hate how she not only doesn’t like anyone else as much of us but that she’s terrified of other people - it’s so sad and she’ll never know the unbridled joy most dogs feel when a new person to smell, lick, and assault is introduced.
Who would star as you in a biopic? Who would write the screenplay?direct? Co-star? Compose the screenplay? Sing the Oscar nominated song from the movie?
Damn, this is a good question.
In an unrealistic world, where I do something worthy of making a movie of but more likely where I’m the plotless indie movie story of an over ambitious, naive millennial who let’s her personality spiral out of control in a desperate and constant plea for attention, it would be:
Star, as me: Anna Kendrik as I would kill to look like her and she seems like she could convey my snark and chronic bitch face.
Writer: Joss Whedon - I snort laugh at so many of his movies
Director: Gillian Robespierre
Co-star: since I picked an unrealistic actress to play me I’ll pick buff Chris Pratt to play Mark
Composer: Trey Parker and Matt Stone
Singer: my only realistic pick, if my character is doing the singing and Kendrick only lip syncs - a howler monkey.
If you could live anywhere in the world, but retain the things about your current home that you love, and the people that you love, where would it be?
Outside the US:
Within the US:
I have to say either Colorado, we just love the mountains, or maybe North Carolina, to live by my sister and, of course, beach + mountains. I was also once in Virginia, on the Chesapeake, in the autumn and I died from the beauty.
Tell us about St. Louis!
It’s hot and full of crime.
I kid, I kid. Kind of.
It’s awesome to be back in the office instead of working from home. I had no idea how much I missed human interaction. I have learned that, for no reason at all, sitting at a desk all day is the most exhausting thing in the world. I did not remember office life being so tiring.
Callie is finally settled in but we still have to take her out to some of the more fun areas (see: forest park, creve couer lake, and the Katy trail).
Mostly it’s been great to reconnect with our friends here that we haven’t seen in awhile. We were able to catch up with several old friends from college over the Fourth of July and generally had a blast. I want the best of both worlds and to have my Kansas City friends move here as well.
I’m struggling with getting our apartment settled and setting expectations with my in-laws on how many times we’ll visit them. There seems to be at least one, if not more, invites to come over every weekend and while they are perfectly pleasant I do not want to spend my weekends at their place. We have never lived in the same city as either of our parents so I’m not sure what the expectation is to spend time with them and I’m a hellacious crab who doesn’t want to trek out there for anything but a holiday. I’ll take any and all advice.